Have you ever been "cut" in life? Hurt so bad that it made you bleed and cry? Left with an ugly wound that you tried to cover?
This is the case for many of us, including me. Whether it was caused by a girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband, family member, or close friend... it happens to the best of us! But the focus here is not so much the cut, but the scab! I've discovered a chilling parody between physical and emotional cuts that offer a transformational mental shift.
After the body suffers a cut, it automatically goes into survival mode. The brain sends messages to clot the blood, kill infectious organisms, and form tissue that turn into skin. Over the cut itself, a scab is created that allows repairs to occur underneath. The scab, though dry, itchy, and flaky, protects the wound as it heals.
For years we've been taught not to pick at a scab or pull it off. Your grandmother or mother may have affectionately screamed, "Let it fall off on its own!!!" That meant for you to stop touching it, and allow it to come off in its own timing. But earlier this week, my podiatrist debunked this myth of removing the scab!
It'd been 4 1/2 weeks since my foot surgery. The nurse placed cold, wet gauze on top of each incision on my feet. It soaked into my skin for 5 minutes as I waited for the doctor to enter the room. He greeted me with a warm smile and immediately began to pull the scabs from my incisions with a metal instrument. I told him it felt like my feet were being plucked and waxed, but he only smiled. After my poor analogies continued, he gently said, "we have to remove the scabs, so they don't impede the healing process". I instantly went into investigator mode and asked a few more questions, then went home and performed a few Google searches myself. And it turns out, he was RIGHT!
Allowing the scab to remain prolongs your healing! Wounds cannot completely close while the scab is still present.
Let's relate this to the emotion cuts you've experienced... if you're anything like me, you put up a wall to block anything and anyone from ever cutting you again, right? That's the scab! Although it makes you dry, itchy, and flaky (*wink*), you do that to protect yourself as you rebuild your heart, mental stability, feelings, esteem, confidence, and ability to trust. But again, waiting for the scab [your wall] to organically come down leaves you in this state far longer than you should be!
So, I challenge you to moisten your emotions and carefully, but intentionally remove the scab. Here are 3 quick cautions for you...
1) You will traumatize the wound. There's no way around this. You're getting rid of something that was meant to protect, but only during the first phase of the healing process. Don't allow the comfort of the scab to prohibit your growth and elevation.
2) Maintain your consistency. As in the physical, you need the right about of moisture. The gooey texture allows cells to crawl around and appropriately place themselves, but too much goo becomes pus. If you're too rigid, you miss opportunities to advance, but if you're too loose, you are susceptible to be taken advantage of.
3) Breathe through the process. Just as those cells need oxygen, so do you. Take time to relax. Don't be wrapped so tight that you're mentally bound and constrained. Oxygen is imperative for the second part of the healing process.
NOTE: After the scab is removed, follow the maintenance care... clean daily with soap and water, do not cover the area, and moisturize to prevent another scab from forming. What does that mean emotionally... ON A DAILY BASIS... purge the negative, be authentic and refrain from wearing "the mask", and lather with positivity to ensure another wall doesn't surface.
Do you still have an emotional wound because your wall [scab] won't let it close? Have you ever intentionally removed an emotional scab? I would love to hear your thoughts and comments. Leave them below.
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